Put Yourself Out There (Whatever that means)

So I previously spoke of the need to alleviate loneliness. I was speaking with my hairdresser the other day about the difficulties of moving to a new city and how it becomes more difficult to make friends as one gets older. People inevitably couple off and begin their slow submersion into their one bedroom apartments never to be seen again. Just a note on that. Please remind me of my hypocrisy if/when I become a member of said couple in the near or distant future. However, being single and not having regular sex grants me certain advantages, one of which is the right to honestly criticize “relationship people”. I am not referring to people in relationships. I am referring to “relationship people”. There is a difference. I have been in these types of relationships before and am thus aware that it is unnecessary to become a “relationship person”. It is unnecessary to lose all individual identity when one enters into a union. I understand the argument: if you know you’re getting laid at the end of the night, what’s the point of getting out of your sweat pants and leaving the house. No wait. I don’t. Get out of your fucking jammies and leave the house assholes!

Anyway, I was talking to my hairdresser. He was telling me tales of how the ubiquitous loneliness had touched his life and how difficult it was to meet a partner or even just to meet new friends. However, he actually did something about it which is why this is worth writing about. He joined different clubs. He learnt how to dragon-boat, he joined a curling beer league (I didn’t know that existed either), he got into yoga. I really admire the act of changing a reality that makes you unhappy. I’m not gonna get crazy and profess to try new things myself, cause let’s face it, I’m too lazy to keep up with such a commitment. However, he did motivate me to bring my computer out to a public coffee shop and “put myself out there”, meaning be around others of my species. I must say it feels good. Plus, people think I’m doing something important as I intensely type into my laptop.

A good lesson to add to the list today: Put myself “out there”. And smile while I do it because it may attract some positive energy. Or I could look like the creepy girl smiling to herself for no apparent reason.